Silent Communication

Communication isn't just the words you speak. It's in how you present yourself to others. It's in how you carry yourself, how you move, how you speak, and how you dress. Dress like a gangster, and even if you aren't, people will we weary of you yet also disrespect you. Dress in a way that advertises your fertility, and people will evaluate you on the basis of your fitness for procreation.

Normal women who happened to walk late at night on the wrong street sometimes have men in cars stop by and make them indecent offers, not only because they were at the wrong place at the wrong time, but because they looked like the usual "service providers". Conversely, if you dress in a way that is elegant and conservative, you show that you value yourself and are instead evaluated as a potential wife, rather than as a potential toy, no matter how premium a toy you may be.

The way you present yourself to others communicates what you think about yourself, and what you think of the people around you. Show up to work in a T-shirt, shorts, and flip-flops, and you let everyone know that you're not a serious person, and that you don't take your workplace or coworkers seriously. Even if you wear a suit, if it fits well, you let everyone know that you respect yourself and expect to receive respect. But if it's too form-fitting, you let everyone know that you're a hoodlum playing dress-up.

The same also applies to body language. A young woman sitting hunched over in a bus stop late at night broadcasts vulnerability, which then attracts exploiters. Speak timidly, and people will understand that you are weak and either ignore you or take advantage of you.

It may be unfair. We are all created in the image of Gd, and are all worthy of respect until proven otherwise, but it is simply the reality. If you put something on display, people will look. If you advertise something about yourself, people will absorb that information and respond accordingly. We keep preaching that it shouldn't be so, but it is our nature. Instead of fighting with it, we should understand it and work with it.

Want respect? Present yourself in a way that shows that you deserve it. If you don't want to appear respectable, expect that you won't receive it, because the simple reality is that you won't. You might be a good person, you might be honorable, but you're communicating to everyone that you aren't, and that's on you.

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